I very much believe that when something in the past continues to haunt us despite our best efforts to ignore it, it is because there is something about the experience that we don’t want to believe is the truth. But here’s the thing, suppressing our feelings doesn’t work because those emotions continue to pop up and express themselves at the worst possible times and make us act overemotional.
Recently while I was speaking with a client about an issue she was struggling with, I realized that there were emotions about something in my own past which were popping up for me. Fortunately, I was able to stay focused on being there for her 100% during our session together.
But immediately after our session I thought about how I could take my power back from what had happened in my past and feel more peaceful. I realized that there is only one way and it is a lot easier to say than do. The solution is acceptance. I then created the following 5 questions which helped me accept what happened in my life and feel more peaceful about it. I’m sharing them with you in the hopes that these 5 questions bring you the same level of peace that they brought me:
1. What happened in my past that I’m upset happened?
2. Why do I not want to accept this happened?
3. What would it mean to me if I did accept this reality?
4. Is that fully the truth? Is there any proof that it isn’t the truth?
5. What is my new description of reality?
Once I started asking myself these questions I realized that the my biggest fears were unfounded and that the terrible story I was telling myself about what happened wasn’t necessarily true. Then when I created my new description of what happened I found myself feeling much more at peace and I’ve barely thought about it since then. By accepting what happened I was able to release the negative energy it was causing in me and I gave myself the gift of peace. Isn’t that what we all want?
Now I want to hear from you, is there something that happened in your past that you continue to think about which makes you unhappy? Is there is a new way to describe what happened that will bring you more peace? Please let me know in the comment section below how I can support you feeling more peaceful. Also, if you like this article please share it with your friends 🙂