THANKSGIVINGthanksgiving is rapidly approaching and if you feeling uncomfortable about being single on that day you aren’t alone. In fact, over 40% of Americans over the age of 18 are single so there are plenty of people who know how you feel. There are also plenty of people who want to meet someone special but I’ll get to that in a bit. For now, I encourage you to think of Thanksgiving as the time to give thanks and you can start by giving thanks for the fact that you aren’t in a bad relationship.

If you choose to spend Thanksgiving at home you can avoid the headaches of packed airports and traffic jams. You’ll also have fewer obligations, less family drama, and more time to relax and enjoy your time off from work. You can decide to declare the day to be whatever you want it to be.  You can spend it with friends, watch movie marathons, volunteer to help the homeless or however else you want.

If you choose to spend Thanksgiving with family it could be really nice. But at the same time you may worry that a relative may ask you insensitive questions. You know what I’m referring to, the ones who are terrible at small talk and instead ask, “so why are you still single?” If you are in a new relationship they may ask, “when are you getting married?” Chances are they love you and have good intentions but are a little ignorant and crass. Even though you may want to jump out of your skin when they ask, I recommend that you smile and change the subject to one of their favorites. Most people love discussing children, pets or holiday shopping. But, if they continue with the insensitive questions you can turn it around and ask them, “why do you ask?” If they shush after that, great. If they don’t, perhaps it is time for you to check on the stuffing?

Let’s also not forget that the night before Thanksgiving is one of the biggest nights of the year for going out and meeting someone new. Nothing is permanent in life and your relationship status can change in an instant. Mine did.