If you are not yet married, but would like to be….no worries! People who get married later in life are more likely to live together beforehand and know what they are getting into. The relationship is also more likely to last and less likely to divorce.
Last month the US Census Bureau reported that the median age of people getting married for the first time in the 1950’s was 23 for men and 20 for women. But, in 2009 the median age for first time marriage was 28 for men and 26 for women. They also reported that marriages are lasting longer and more than half of married couples are together after 15 years, more than a third are together 25 years, and the rest are married more than 50 years. The vast majority of people get married, but while marriage used to be the first step into adulthood, it is now often the last. For many reasons, I believe that is a good step in the right direction.
Immature people tend to have immature relationships which often leads to unhappiness. When people take the time to figure out what they truly want out of life, and especially from a romantic relationship, they are more likely to be satisfied. Delaying marriage gives people time for education, the chance to grow their careers, and enables them to achieve personal goals without having to make sacrifices for the marriage. If you are still looking for the person you’d like to grow old with… chances are they are still looking for you as well!
We’ll be discussing the pros/cons of delaying marriage tomorrow night at 6 PM ET on “Dating Help 911!” As always, we’d love to hear our thought, comments and answer your questions while the show is airing live. If you’d like to discuss your goals privately with me, send me an email or call me at 212.813.3211.