The holiday of gratitude is just a few days away and if you can read this that means you are educated and have access to a computer so you much to be thankful for. But, if you’re like many people I know you may be dreading seeing your nosy relatives who will ask you about your love life. You know what I’m referring to, the ones who are terrible at small talk and instead ask, “so why are you still single?” If you are in a new relationship they may ask, “when are you getting married?” Chances are they love you and have good intentions but are a little ignorant and difficult.

Ethanksgivingven though you may want to jump out of your skin when they start their interrogation, I recommend that you smile and change the subject to one of their favorites. Most people love discussing children, pets, traveling or holiday shopping. But, if that doesn’t work and they continue with the insensitive questions you can turn it around and ask them, “why do you ask?” If they shush after that, great. If they don’t, perhaps it is time for you to excuse yourself and check on the dessert?

Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks and it is the perfect day to give thanks for all you have. It is a day off from work and ultimately you can make it whatever you want it to be. You can spend it with friends, watch movie marathons, volunteer to help the homeless or spend it with your family. If you choose to spend Thanksgiving with family (including your nosy relatives) you may want to ask a family member you trust for help in case you get “the questions.” Perhaps your cousin doesn’t enjoy the interrogation either and you two can make a pact to change the subject when it starts on either of you? Spending a little time in advance making a plan can go a long way towards reducing family drama and enable you to have a Thanksgiving you are truly grateful for.

Speaking of giving thanks, I want to give YOU a big THANKS. 2015 has been a year of big changes for me and I want to thank you for sharing all of them with me. We are in this together and I’m sending you oodles of love and peace on Thanksgiving!