If you are like a lot of the single people I coach you may not be feeling great about Thursday’s holiday. Believe me when I tell you that you are not the only one who isn’t spending Thursday having a fancy shmancy dinner with your gorgeous lover while drinking champagne, eating chocolates and exchanging cards. If you are feeling bad about that it is time to stop. Valentine’s Day is simply about celebrating the love that IS in your life. Love comes in many forms, it is not just romantic. Love is available to you on Valentine’s Day and every other day of your life.
Being single on 2/14/13 is really no different than being single on 1/14/13. It is just a day and you can choose to make the holiday as big of a deal as you want depending upon what makes you happy. If you are single and want to make it a romantic day you can watch a romantic-comedy movie such as “When Harry Met Sally,” “An Officer and a Gentleman,” or “The American President.” You can also spend the day adding love to the world by volunteering to help animals, the elderly, or children in need.
Valentine’s Day can also be the catalyst you need to make some necessary changes in your life. If you are serious about having this be the last Valentine’s Day you spend single I invite you to reach out to me. I’ve helped hundreds of singles meet someone special and perhaps I can help you as well.
In looking at Facebook today there is an onslaught of funny, sarcastic, and silly references to Valentine’s Day – even historic ones. There are also truly heartfelt expressions of what you mention above – that there are so many ways to partake in and share Love.
As someone that is single, I resonate heavily with one post I saw that said “Happy Single’s Awareness Day” because there is such a focus on the romantic couple component to this Holiday. Therefore, I appreciate your reminder that I can choose my level of engagement with the holiday. As in all areas, my Perception of it is what truly counts.
Your suggestion about this moment potentially being a catalyst – if I choose for it to be – is well received. Chances are my soul mate is not going to ring my door bell and announce his arrival! Perhaps I can be mindful of what has truly gone into the recipe which still has me single – and if I care to tweak some of the self imposed obstacles that block my path towards coupledom – maybe in a year from now I shall be in a happy, monogamous, fulfilling relationship.