As a dating coach and flirting expert, people tell me practically every day that they wish they could feel more confident flirting with someone they are attracted to. If you have wished you could feel more confident flirting as well, let me assure you that it can be quite easy. Just like you’d greet everybody else, smile at that attractive person and say hello. Once you’ve broken the ice, you can ask them a question about anything you see, hear, taste, touch in the environment.
For example, if you are on the train you can ask them what the next stop is or if you are at the supermarket you can ask them how to choose a great piece of fruit. The specific question you ask them isn’t important. What is important is that you exchange words with them. Every relationship begins with an exchange of words so if you want to meet someone…ask them something!
Now that you have broken the ice and you are speaking with them, you can start flirting with them. I define flirting as a playful “light and breezy” attitude which lets the other person know that you are enjoying yourself and them. You’ll want to speak about happy and positive topics, this isn’t the time to discuss anything heavy. Also, I recommend that while you are speaking with this attractive new person you give them your full attention. This includes ignoring your cell phone, ignoring other attractive people in the environment and giving this new person direct eye contact about 70% of the time.
The most important aspect of flirting is the eye contact so if you aren’t comfortable giving direct eye contact, this is definitely an area you will want to practice and improve. In addition, it is a great idea to use their name often while you are speaking to them because it lets them know that your attention is fully on them and it is the best way to inspire them to keep their attention fully on you!